The Only Way Out of Manipulation

Manipulators are predators who are constantly thirsty for preys. Once they spot their prey, they slowly encircle them without letting them know and then suffocate and tangle them to their downfall. We as preys, need to batten down the hatches. 

The only way of getting rid of a manipulator is to, turn the tables on them. You will have to manipulate the manipulator. Here are some of the most practical ways to get rid of them.

  • Steer the conversation

Manipulators have a habit of making everything about them. You can use this trait to out-manipulate. When they are talking about themselves, change the conversation, direct it towards yourself. Let the manipulator listen to you, talk about yourself. This will irritate the manipulator because they can’t stand it when someone else is the main topic of a conversation, other than themselves.  

  • Stand Your Ground

Manipulators cannot stand it when their prey is standing up for himself or herself rather than them. They are so used you agreeing to their terms that they would be absolutely furious to see you not do that. Once you stand up, they may try to divert you but do not let that happen! That’s the point of standing your ground, you do what you want to do. You make decisions that you believe are right for you.

  • Interrogate them

Manipulators love to get things done their way and hate it when you question them. Question them as much as you can, even if it may seem annoying. Ask them why you should do what they suggest, what is the purpose of doing so. By asking questions the power in the conversation starts coming to your side, which the manipulator will absolutely not be able to stand.

  • Give your opinions

You should speak out and talk about your thoughts and ideas. You cannot always follow the manipulator’s orders. Speak up and tell them that you think this is wrong and what they should be doing this instead. Try to make it more personal by using words such as, ‘I think’, ‘I believe’, ‘I want to’, etc, this will further amplify your opinions and your standings. The manipulator will absolutely be disgusted with you giving your opinions and again they might reinforce their own ideas but you need to be able to stand up again and speak up. 

Let the manipulators have a taste of their medicine. The more you start irritating and humiliating them, the quicker they will leave you. All predators have one thing in common, that is, if their prey constantly out-smarts them, they leave it alone. The same needs to be done while dealing with manipulative people.

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